Saturday, October 26, 2013

Paul Newman's Letter To His Wife

Here is Paul Newman's letter to his wife, Joanne Woodward, on their wedding day.  It's beautiful.  Now, no relationship is perfect, this one included, but the sentiments expressed here seem true to me, nonetheless.  I would love to find someone who thinks like this; who thinks like I do.  Maybe I will put up a personal ad here someday, LOL.  It's my blog, I'll do whatever I want!   :D

 "Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.  A good marriage must be created.  In the Art of Marriage, the little things are the big things.  It is never being too hold to hold hands.  It is remembering to say 'I love you' at least once a day.  It is never going to sleep angry.  It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon; it should continue through all the years.  It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.  It is standing together facing the world. 

 It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.  It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.  It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have the wings of an angel.  It is not looking for perfection in each other.  It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.  It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.  It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.  It is finding room for things of the spirit.  It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.  It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and obligation is reciprocal.  It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner."